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Living together has historically been a less binding means of experiencing the benefits of sexuality without the commitments inherent to the marriage relationship

The Bible is unambiguous in relating God’s declaration that all sex outside of the marriage relationship is overtly sinful behavior. This includes, but not limited to premarital sex however, what, of those who live together out of wedlock and yet are not sexually active? Is such behavior sinful or is it acceptable?

This is a pretty popular questions that comes up with believers and non-believers. Sometimes it’s difficult to answer something like this and I think it takes a little more discussion than just answering these questions.

Typically this situation involves a similar question that goes something like, How far is too far? or When does sin actually become sin?

As an old generations stigmatized all extramarital sexual behavior, cohabitation was traditionally deemed socially inappropriate. Given that the idea of non-sexual shacking up is a relative novelty, we should certainly reexamine the issue taking into account this perspective.

There is a reason God wanted Eve for Adam, and he says it right in the beginning of our manual for life. He says that it is not good for Adam to be alone. By design men will at some point need help and support, and women will want to be a help meet.This is fabulous in marriage and dangerous in casual relationships.

In any case, let’s look and see what Scripture says about this. Let’s see how God defines marriage and why it would be wrong to live together before getting married.

Scripture is specific that the couple should remove themselves from their childhood families and be devoted to one another (Mark 10:7-9). The scripture describes marriage as a committed relationship between one man and one who woman sanctioned and blessed by God (Genesis 2: 22- 24).

The Bible also says that disloyalty to the marriage commitment is akin to rejecting God. The Bible is explicit not only that one should abstain from sexual immorality  (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5), but additionally that one is to flee from it (1 Corinthians 6:18- 20).

Living together before marriage doesn’t reflect the commitment that God instituted and ordained. When it comes to living together before marriage, you may think you are fine just because you are living together and nothing more, but you are not.

In the midst of living together, you are also opening the door to even more temptation between you two, and hurting any testimony you may have of following Christ as you proclaim that it is a God glorifying thing to live together before marriage. You are also in danger of leading others down a similar path towards sin because of your example (Romans 14:13-22).

Several studies have found that cohabiting before making plans to marry can result in unhappy marriages and higher divorce rates than those who waited. This might be caused by couples sliding into marriage because it’s just too difficult to cut ties – and leave a home, furniture, and lower rent  even when they realise early on that the relationship isn’t working out.

Some studies found that couples who lived together before marriage were one-third more likely to divorce than those didn’t live at all.

According to the scriptures, fornication is pre-marital sex. However, a woman who is engaged, is married therefore, fornication is not applicable to an engaged couple. Engagement in the bible is marriage.

As an engaged couple, your family is aware of your marriage and a contract is drawn up. These days, that can be achieved by going to the court of the law and getting a marriage certificate.

In general, an engagement should lead to marriage. It is a commitment to another person, and such commitments should be honored. But it is not a sin to break off the engagement if events occur or issues come to light that cause the couple to re-evaluate the appropriateness of their match.

Unlike in Bible times, breaking off an engagement is not divorce. The Bible does not dictate how couples should spend their engagement, although there are allusions to how engagements worked in Bible times. Usually marriages were arranged to the benefit of the families and not the feelings of the individuals involved.

So if you find yourself in cohabiting situation, there are plenty of ways to change and repent from it. There are plenty of people around you who can help you move out and wait patiently until you are married.

Questions: So what do you think? Do you see anything wrong with this? What do you see from Scripture? You can leave a comment by clicking below!!!


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